Thursday, July 02, 2009

Many times, I use to think why do people fall in LOVE? What makes them LOVE their counterparts? What is it, actually? Is it a "feeling" or a "characteristic". LOVE as quoted from the dictionary, states that: "Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful". Well, the different dictionaries will give you number of other definitions of this simple yet complex word LOVE. Now, you must be wondering why I am calling it complex. Its complex because it is not easy to understand other's feeling and until and unless you feel from inside, you cant just fall in love like that. LOVE itself can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and so on ranging from generic pleasure to intense one. For instance, it might be that you might love eating a certain dish or you might be in love with your wife or girlfriend. But, once you get married, does it mean that the feeling of LOVE dries down a bit? And, the answer to this is, No. Once you feel that the feeling of LOVE in you is drying, you got to energize yourself. LOVE, after marriage means "Sharing" by sharing, I mean willing to open your and share each other's feelings i.e. pain, joy, success and failure. Love itself means being honest and sharing and losing ones inhibitions and knowing that the person on the other side will never be judgmental. Secondly, LOVE also means to talk. Well, now you must think if I am sharing, Am I not talking. I guess you are right and you get full marks for this. Sharing me ans talking and thats these two hold the key for LOVE as its all about speaking, talking ans sharing your thoughts and feeling with your partner. I have seen may married couple, once they marriage gets older, their conversation gets restricted to credit card bills, monthly allowances, and housekeeping, and so on. This shouldn't happen at all. There should be continuous interaction between you and your partner to keep yourself motivated and energized. Also, thirdly, LOVE is all about spending time with each other. In this times when we are so busy with our own hectic schedules, this might not happen lot of time. But, believe me, just a few minutes spent with your counterpart is extremely critical for an everlasting relationship. Believe me, it means a lot when you spend time together with your partner. It means a lot and especially when one of the partner is not working, this becomes extremely critical. Next, Love means loving one unconditionally without any reason and cherishing each and every moment spent with each other. It means being true to each other, and it also means giving your everything to your partner. Besides this, LOVE also means being friends with each other. Well, this comes before even you start loving your counterpart. It is said that if you cant be friendly to your partner, then the chances are that you might not be in love. So, friendship is "the" starting point for LOVE. Apart from this, LOVE means to look into the same dorection as your partner. Now, this might amuse you as many would disagree with me because its generally said that all people are not same. But, when you are in LOVE, you think in the same direction as your partner. You share the same goals and take the steps in that direction to make them come true.

As George Elliot rightly quoted,

"What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined... to strengthen each other... to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories".